A Relationship Guide - By Md Hazlami

I begin with the words, "In the name of God, the Most gracious, Most merciful."

Relationships can be very tough. Socio-habits of the human has always proved to have certain natural characteristics, which means to say the phrase ,"Go with the flow" is inevitably true. Humans were born to socialise, expanding its social circle to full potential. With reasons like political prowess, economical benefits, personal gain n etc, humans are bound to face such sooner or later in life. No matter how they try to run away from the inevitable, it is by nature that we would someday have this thought of settling down and start a family.

Being independant or the excuse to remain a single status is a mere concept of running away from commitments, phobias, stories of the past and etc. But even so, though they might feel independance is equal to liberation- the freedom to many close-knitted commitments and sorts- the fact still remain. How long do you want to wait?

In my life, I have seen many relationships crumble, and even experience it for myself. The excruciating pain, cuppled by the sudden lost of a special friend, with many reasons that'll just hurt you more, the anxiety that can bring you to the verge of self-destruction or even death. However, by studying the past, we learn. Humans and the past bear constant co-relationship that enables man to understand. Man cannot learn without making mistakes. The use of two atomic bombs proved man then that the use of such weapons of mass destruction is so violent and the need for diplomatic resolution is immediate. That war is costly. Such demonstrates the ability of man to grasp the hidden knowledge of God. Thou I must admit while some men are learnt, few fail to see the concept or patterns that intertwines the very balance of nature itself.

I see life as a balance. A universal pattern. A constructive idealistic form, yet subtle, viscous. And in order to understand life, these patterns need to be known. And learning the past helps in making such anomilies.

A relationship is a like a house with many pillars. Pillars represent foundations, and each foundation stands on roots of factors. Love is the key to opening the house. Home deco is the interesting things that spices it up- beautifies the love that we share.

Love is simple. Yet sophisticated. How is it so?

Love is a word. Love for God, family, religion, special ones, friends, nature, humans. Love therefore isnt a subset- its a full circle, and inside it are the balances of life we must appreciate. Each love is important. We cannot give full love to a person, for it would unbalance the balance. Loving yourself is the key to loving God, thus from there lies the pattern. Henceforth, loving thyself is the ultimate love that everyone must achieve.

Loving thyself is not being selfish, more rather understanding how important are you to the balance of life, to the family that bore you, to the friends that accompanied you. With understanding comes the natural love that acts as a light in us, an Eldar star that shines in times of darkness and crisis. With such comes acceptance, or the muslim term we use, redha,
things that comes into our way- obstacles or thorns in the journey towards loving the One God- won't affect us thoroughly. Instead, we accept, or if not, we learn to. Learning is the first step, its like a baby trying to walk on its two feet. Balancing is hard, but with lots of perseverance, determination, and luck, the baby finally walks.

Loving thyself, hence, is a major constructive idea to the path of acceptance, in which hence the root of all love. Learning yourself, respecting your body, mind and soul, is relevant in our journey to understand the fulfillments of Love.

PS: I love you dian. :)